I knew I had made the right decision to hire Marcy as my midwife when, at her first visit – all of which were in my home – she took time to ask me about whether I had a history of physical or sexual abuse in order to work within my personal needs and boundaries during the pelvic exam. The exam she began by requesting that I choose a lubricant of choice (olive oil, or whatever you normally use) and a place where I felt most comfortable. I have never felt more at ease and respected by a practitioner in my life.
In this photo, Marcy is administering the APGAR test while newborn Haydée is kept warm, not by an incubator, but by her Papa’s warm and loving arms. On the right you can see my son’s little hand resting on my leg; Marcy is telling him that he was a fabulous Midwife’s Assistant. The moment he arrived home from school, she welcomed him and allowed him the space to take part in his mother’s labor as much as he needed to. He has since told me that the two hours he spent being the Contraction Timer Man and massaging my back and legs made him feel so important and special – exactly how I hoped he would feel about the birth of his sister. This is the essence of what Marcy brings to families: she empowered each of us to be present exactly how we were called to be, and as a result this birth was the day that we re-birthed ourselves into a new family, together.
When I chose to do a homebirth for my second child, I knew that I wanted to use Marcy as my midwife: she has over 25 years experience, I heard that she was amazing and loving, and she had superb recommendations and was willing to travel to the Bronx, where she was born and raised.
Marcy was very supportive of having the me having the proper support during my birth. During my labor, Marcy her assistant Loretta, my doulaMaiysha, my sister friend Maricruz and my partner Omar where present. My two year old son Gibran was asleep, but when he awoke, he was welcomed as an integral part of the support circle! While I have the day present in my memory and my heart, it is really through looking at my beautiful birth pictures that I can honestly appreciate the love, tenderness and care that Marcy took in ensuring that my birth space was sacred. Through the pictures there is a sense of calmness, love, tranquility and such serene feel to it. While I remember the physical and mental space that I was in, I also remember that Marcy created a whole space as a temple to honor me.
My postpartum visits where very similar. So fresh in my mind, they remind me of two girlfriends leisurely catching up on the bed with a new baby in the mix (and yes my two year old joined in all the visits, where Marcy made sure he felt he had an important role to play). This feeling of friendship, sisterhood and support did not end with the birth of my daughter. About a month after my birth, I mentioned to Marcy via text message the need that I have to go dancing. Within minutes I received “I’ll be at Salsa Mania at Dancesport Studio today 5pm-9pm”. Wow, I thought – the support continues!
Marcy was an outstanding midwife. The pregnancy of my daughter was a challenging period of my life. Physically I was in great shape, but the circumstances surrounding the pregnancy were complicated. I chose to have a home birth because I wanted to birth in a mother-centered supportive environment void of hospital protocols and unnecessary interventions. I chose to birth with Marcy because from the beginning her treatment and regard were much like that of a close relative. In her presence and under her care I felt totally supported, empowered and, I have to say, loved.This was exactly what I needed at the time. Whenever I needed a resource to support my well being she provided a referral to an excellent practitioner. From my doula, to childbirth classes, yoga therapist, naturopath, herbalist, and more.
The beautiful thing is that her respect and regard as our midwife extended to my entire family, and at that moment in our lives we needed practitioners that would support our development as a new family. Marcy stepped into that role with grace and ease.
During my birth I wanted to be surrounded by people who would remind me, “You got this!” when I reached the point when I was convinced I could not go on. On the day of the birth, under Marcy’s and her assistant (and my doula) Loretta’s guidance my sister Sylvia, my friend, kindred spirit and business partner Janvieve and the baby’s grandmother maintained a safe and supportive space where I was empowered to birth. Although my daughter’s father was out of town, with the support of this amazing circle of women, I never experience anything missing!
The amazing thing was that Marcy was not there to deliver my baby but rather to reassure me, and everyone else, that I had everything I needed to deliver my baby. Inside this amazing space I was empowered to successfully cross the wall of fire every woman goes through when bringing life forth. It was the most amazing, self assuring and empowering experience of my life.